What are the characteristics of emotionally full people?
Obviously, acceptance and emotional fullness do not come from nothing; They require work, effort, good intentions and the will to look at ourselves. Emotional fulfillment involves having our thoughts in order, as well as our emotions.
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Keys to reach emotional fulfillment
Next we will see seven factors that emotionally full people have in common:
- They know how to say goodbye
People tend to be afraid of changes, to start a new stage. It is natural that we have a feeling of insecurity and fear and even pain at the loss, but being prepared to go through all the stages and from this attitude, will facilitate reaching the goal of acceptance.
The first step is to want the change, and the second step is to be willing to take the first step. Changes are necessary, and everything starts by observing our thoughts and emotions to select those that interest claim.
The mental map has many dimensions, and we usually choose only one. But if we keep our mind open, that will allow us to have access to a wide range of possibilities. From there we can choose and nurture the one that most benefits us and allows us to evolve.
Always thinking about the past instead of the present harms us. It prevents us from liberating ourselves, detaching ourselves and growing. And it immerses us in fear, in an abyss of despair that will impede us to improve.
Emotionally full people know that life is much better if we live freely, repairing our emotional wounds and moving forward from the present.
- You can look without suffering into your emotional past.
Pain is inevitable and necessary to evolve in our emotional path but suffering is a choice. Martin Luther once said: “I can not stop the birds from flying over my head, but I can prevent them from nesting in my head.”
Emotionally full people know how important it is to live in the present, to continue and accept what happened. When we learn from our pain, we move forward and grow.
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- Are aware of their thoughts and feelings
Emotionally full people are aware of both personal and external thoughts and feelings, they focus from the present on realistic solutions, from care, respect, love and inner peace.
This mentality allows them to solve the problems of daily life effectively. They are more resilient, they know that they can and will fall, but they are aware that they will rise up and become stronger and more decisive people from the learning. They know they will come out of the storm, but changed. They determine that constructive, non-destructive changes will continue to be part of themselves.
- They stop complaining
They shift that energy from the complaint to the search for the best way to start the change or acceptance.
The complaint can throw us into dark rooms with no way out. We are largely what we think, and emotionally full people take it into account. They know that if they take a path and it does not give the expected results it may not be the right one at that moment, so they will make the decision to leave that comfort zone and, from humility, rectify and take that other path that will provide different results and probably more satisfactory.
- They can empathize without allowing themselves to be affected by the emotions of others
They have the confidence to know how to direct their emotions. They are faithful to their actions and this allows them to maintain a more active understanding with their own emotions and those of others. From self-knowledge and acceptance they are more tolerant and will optimize the relationship with themselves as well as with others.
Relationships are the key to emotional balance, the quality of your relationships is what makes it possible for life to be fuller, starting with oneself.
- They do not blame themselves for failing
Mistakes are the best way to learn. Failure allows us to be tolerant and know how to correct or recognize what other path we need to continue. Mature people accept mistakes, it’s a way to innovate.
In addition, emotionally full people do not blame themselves for their limits, rather, accept them and work to improve. Do not insist that things always go well, each setback can be a good opportunity to grow. Recognizing the negative emotions we feel constitutes a restful rest for the mind.
- Opening emotionally
Maintaining the emotional barrier only makes things difficult. For this reason, it is very important to abandon the fear of commitment and through love and trust in ourselves we will identify and manage difficulties better and live more fully the great results.
Fear is natural, it is a mechanism that the brain has to face threatening situations, but the important thing is not to allow it to paralyze us. It’s like the decision to jump on parachutes; the first step is crucial, and once you’re on the plane about to take the leap, the first time almost always implores the instructor that it’s better to throw in the towel, but the instructor does not usually “listen” and gives that push so that it jumps.
Emotional fullness allows you to take control of life from the most constructive decisions, develop your own vision of the world and strive to achieve the most satisfactory goals.
The key is to be open to solutions and not to closed expectations. Life is very paradoxical and after the storm the sun always appears, you just have to be open to this new light that is about to come, maybe being different to the expectations. And remember, you are the creator of your mind!